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Hello, this is Tim and I'm the hubby, at least I've had that title for about a year. Having gone through my own wedding, and countless others over the past few years, for these tips we'll introduce a point of view sorely missed from this blog in its nascent stages...the male one. I fashion myself a bit of a wedding savant, having cared nothing about them, previous to my own, and now I feel rather immersed in their intricacy. So here we go, my official advice on male wedding fashion. Hopefully, this won't be my last, and if you like it, please, by all means, let me know.
1. Just Because the Shoe Fits Doesn't Mean You Should Wear It
Casual shoes are wack. Actually, they aren't. But it's so hard...really, really hard to pull them off. Truth is, there is no more novelty to it. None. Which doesn't mean you can't do it; it just means that you would have to do it really well for it to look nice. I love seeing casual shoes in wedding pictures when it's done right, and if I had an outdoor wedding, there's a good chance that you would see me in a pair of Converse. However, there are tons of other ways to inject personality and to make an outfit unique besides the casual shoe.
2. What Works for Bridesmaids Can Work for Groomsmen
So we see this a lot with bridesmaids, but not nearly enough with groomsmen-let the groomsmen suits be a similar color, but not exactly the same design. I have seen it done so many times, but it could be done so much more. Truthfully, with a huge budget, stylish suits lined up next to one another makes an unbelievably great impression. But with budgets that are stretched, one must be creative, and at times, that means each groomsmen wearing their best suit, and creating uniformity with ties and other accessories.
3. Take Easter Out of Your Wedding
This may be controversial, but please eschew pastels as it relates to men's fashion. Men's fashion works best when it is traditional and bold. I like Easter, I love Miami, and I'll be the first to reach for a pack of Skittles, I just don't think they have any place in men's fashion. Think back to the times when you have looked at a man, and thought, "Wow, that guy is well dressed." Probably they were wearing a traditional black and white suit. If it were me, and I were planning an event, which I'm photographing and will be looking at with admiration 30 years from now, I know I'd probably want it to be black and white, but it definitely couldn't be with pastels.
4. Cut is Everything
So, as a wedding aficionado, you're probably looking for the next level. Here's the truth. Men's fashion is and has not ever been about the colors, the ties or even the shoes, those are just extra. Men's fashion has always been and will always be made in the cut. Men's fashion simply doesn't change all that much, what looks good now, looked great 30 and 40 years ago, and will look good 20 years from now. Literally you can take a picture of George Clooney (or whomever) from this year's Oscars and put him next to a picture of Frank Sinatra and what has changed? The size of the lapels? The button placement? And even that varies by designer, season and year. If you want to impress with the fashion in your wedding, don't rent, buy... and then make sure the suit is tailored appropriately.
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5. Be Direct
Let me give the single most important piece of advice that I can give. With men, be specific and direct. Don't leave room for interpretation if you know what you want. Men, for the most part, tolerate weddings for the sake of marriage. So make it easy on him, by saying what you mean, and if you have something that you really want, letting him know that in as direct a manner as possible.